One way to wash away the pain, sorrow, sadness, or suffering in life is to seek out and try to understand its causes. In this world of interrelated incidents, it's hard to find what the the real cause is. This only one little thing has many of causes; just like how we feel and how we love.
Many times we make mistakes; we blame ourselves or even God and get disappointed in life just because of our denial of the truth; the truth that everything in this seeing changes or will change. And yeah, people are reluctant to change, don't you think, atleast to some extent.
And the repudiation of this one truth also links to another cause of pain and sorrow. Guess what? That is your repudiating the fact that you don't own anything in this existence. How dare you say that? Okie! That's because you don't have any power to control it. Not only can't you control it, but you can't even know when it's gona go away from you.
Be ready to accept that your skin will no longer smooth and your hair will drop some day so that you won't have any pain and sorrow.
This is a relation of the three basic theories in life in Bhudda's finding; <Tukha, Anijang, Anita>.
Going on, we can also explain this phenomenon by the sub theory of <Loapha, Tosa, Moha>. Because of our denial of the truths, we're so resistent to our passion in life, which draws out our compassions and good judgements (Meta, Karona, Muteta, and Opekha; the four mentalities that seperate human kind from animals)
When we lost this four mentalities, we'd become selfish and ignorant. That paves the way for the 3 evils to come in control us. Loapha's the first that makes us deaf. Then Tosa comes to make us mute and Moha last but not least will drive us blind. Finally, we'd ask ourselves where my happiness is.
One'd say the evil can also find his happiness by his deeds. But remember, we are in this world not an island.
SOOOOO - Have u found out a way to eliminate your pain and sorrow?
I say 'Yeah'... How?
TRY TO MAKE YOUR MIND AND ACCEPT THE TRUTH IN LIFE.
Still, she's gone!
Not all of these arguments're neccessarily true. Find out the fallacies yourselves!